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8/29/2018

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I loved being home in Ohio, but the thought of Beth in Massachusetts made me sad, even though I knew she could handle living independently with her disability. I missed her.
 
We had been a team for four years.
 
I hit a snag with an incompetent clerk and a new prescription for her medical supplies. With a fast-dwindling supply, I called the company again. I made the effort to be nice—at least the first several calls. Then, I asked to speak to the clerk’s supervisor and she refused. I lost my temper and started over with another supply company, finally arranging an overnight delivery to Beth at our expense at the last minute.  
           
My sadness amplified the normal day-to-day stress of my job. With elevated headache pain, I had trouble sleeping at the group home. I barreled through more weeks with unpaid overtime hours. Often on the verge of tears, I talked to John and let him convince me the stress of the manager job wasn't worth the money.
 
Looking back, I could have ridden it out.
           
Holidays were always the hardest time of the year to staff group homes. So instead of quitting my manager job in November, before Thanksgiving and Christmas, I decided to be considerate of the residents and other staff by leaving early in the New Year, almost three months away. I turned in my notice, relieved the end was in sight, and focused on setting things in order for the next manager. 
 
I talked to Beth on the phone after she finished a 2,400-yard workout in one practice: 96 lengths in the 25-yard pool, almost a mile and a half.
 
Swimming that distance had not been possible a year before. As college competitions began, Beth would compete at all home meets at Blodgett pool as an official member of the Harvard Women’s Swimming and Diving (HWSD) team. Always too-busy, she appreciated the extra time she would gain by not traveling to away meets with the team.
           
I wished I could have been there for the first home meet of the season in mid-November. Beth dropped fifteen seconds in the 100 free compared to her first Harvard meet ten months before! And reset two of her short course American Records.
           
“She's probably one of the easiest people to coach in the sense that she always has a smile on her face, she's got a great positive attitude, and she's willing to try anything,” HWSD Coach Morawski said. “And she just kept getting faster and faster.”
           
“For her to make that commitment to coach me and, this year I’m on the roster, is really important,” Beth said. “It’s been great. I love it!”
 
Next: Together in Minneapolis!
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8 Comments
Jason Rhode link
8/29/2018 07:06:58 pm

Ah, empty nest syndrome.
Beth's just a badass!

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Cindy Kolbe
9/2/2018 06:00:46 pm

Yes, empty nest syndrome is no fun!

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Amy Henry link
8/30/2018 10:59:01 am

Glad to hear Beth not only made the transition (of your going back to Ohio) but thrived as a member of the swim team. I think parents always have a harder time with these separations than the kids. Their lives are entirely about forward motion.

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Cindy Kolbe link
9/2/2018 06:09:42 pm

I agree, Amy! I’m glad kids are resilient! :-)

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Deb link
9/3/2018 10:19:28 am

Sounds like she’s thriving! Love that! ❤️

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Cindy Kolbe
9/3/2018 08:36:28 pm

Yes, I’m grateful that she was and is thriving. Thanks, Deb!

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Charissa @ The Wild, Wild West Blog link
9/3/2018 10:36:42 am

It sounds like you’ve given her all the skills she needs to live—and thrive—independently. Bravo, mama!

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Cindy Kolbe
9/3/2018 08:37:30 pm

Thanks, Charissa! She taught me so much, too!

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